Whether it’s taking out the trash or feeding the pets, chores are terrific ways of helping our boys earn greater responsibilities. Jesus said that the best way to bring out the best in others is to trust them with responsibility. “Whoever is faithful in very little is also faithful in much, and whoever is unrighteous in very little is also unrighteous in much” (Luke 16:10). After interviewing thousands of parents, Howard Hendricks said that most of them admitted, “If I had it to do over again I would do less for my kids and have them do more for themselves.” Teach them to develop self-reliance actually God-reliance. Why? Because when we take responsibility for people we take it away from them. Today when you find an adult who has somebody who’s responsible for that person we call that person a co-dependent. When you take responsibility for somebody else’s actions, you take it away from them. You need to let them feel the brunt of their own actions, to reap what they’ve sown and not cover for them. Often, the last thing they need is to be bailed out. They need to feel the consequence of their actions. As parents, when we create a safety net so our kids can never fail, they don’t learn responsibility. We must trust them with responsibility.
Jesus trusted the disciples. “As the Father has sent Me, so am I sending you.” Anybody can tell how those twelve disciples would have never gotten along together. They were as different as night and day. They were ordinary. They were fishermen who were rough around the edges. Jesus chose twelve men and later told them His message of salvation was going to be their charge to take forward after He would leave. Can you imagine? He trusted the salvation of the world in the hands of twelve men (of course, one was a turncoat, making it just eleven). Obviously it worked because we’re all here and 2000 years later Christianity is still growing. Don’t create insecure kids by overprotecting them. Trust them with responsibility – something to be earned not expected.